It is incredibly hard to turn a deaf ear to the naysayers of the world. No matter how thick our skin is or how confident we are, there will always be that ounce of negativity that feels like it is shredding every bit of our confidence. It aggravates me so much that words and actions have such an impact in a negative way. The effort and good intentions we put forth in our lives are often under scrutiny for one reason or another, and the person dishing out the criticism truly has no reason to put our actions on trial. Growing up, people would give the pep talk saying, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Well, the truth of the matter, words hurt, and they hurt harshly. Words have a lasting effect and the repeated echo in the mind begins to play a role in maintaining confidence. I would like to think I am a positive and confident person. Not much bothers me when it comes to personality clashes or differences of opinions, but on those occasions when my integrity and character is under attack when I know deep down in my heart I had the best of intentions in those situations, that is when it bothers me. I know it should not, but that is when my vulnerable sensitivities begin to show through. Attacking someone’s character is a low hit, and it surely does not make any situation better by doing so. It truly is not anyone’s place to speculate personal intentions, so moving forward my thought process is to take this approach. I am taking Eleanor Roosevelt’s words of wisdom to heart. If things are said or actions are done with good intentions and for the right reasons, then nothing should shred the positivity. Tearing someone down for doing something good only comes back to reflect the other person; it has no direct impact on the person being criticized. No matter how hard we try, there may always be that one person who has something negative to say. I am going to be more mindful of this, and take the high road in these situations, because, at the end of the day, I know my heart, and the heart knows. Stay Curious, Kayla ©Inquisitive Perspectives 2016
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